Some know.... I am 'separated' from my wife. Okay, three years it's been, give or take. We are not divorced only through some misguided sense of decency on my part. If I stay married, she gets to stay on my medical insurance, and she has enough health issues that it matters. Phsychiatrists and mind altering drugs cost money.
When I left, my youngest son stayed with her. I don't think coming with me was ever an option he would have considered. We were never close, and honestly.... I just don't think he cared for me much. Still, I tried to keep some contact while they lived near. This brought little but grief. Her throwing things at my vehicle, screaming curses across parking lots, driving insanely down one way streets.... the wrong way.... while chasing me. All this culminated in yet one more instance with her talking to more nice police men. This time after trying to force her way in my front door.
A year ago, or so, she moved to another part of the state with my son. That ended contact with my son, and thankfully, mostly with her.
Recently I tried to open up contact with him again. Even managed to spend a few hours together. The thing is... sending him a text message earns me multiple e-mails from her, and I can see the demons are still there.
Frankly, I fear getting sucked into that madness more than I think spending time with him will do either of us any good. She makes it a package deal.... nothing, or dealing with both of them. He seems okay with that situation, although I must allow for young age in that.
No, I don't know what to do. I am sure of only one thing.... I WILL NOT have anything to do with her again. I escaped from the insanity, perhaps I even caused it, and I will never go near it again.