Stories of the non-social....

When one has little social capital, one must spend it wisely. One must husband it, even if nurturing is not in the game plan. Thus, some habits have developed over the years.

There's not many relationships I'll work for. A few family, a few loved ones, a few friends, that's it. Experience has taught me not to waste effort beyond those, and my students.

I don't seek out interactions with people, and I don't fight my nature by forcing myself to. I'm just as happy, and often happier, alone or with just one other person.

I limit my FaceBook 'friends' to an arbitrary number. If someone unfriends me, or I have cause to unfriend them, I usually just block them and be done with it. No peeksies, either direction.

Phone calls..... I pretty much never answer. I'm not good with unsolicited demands on my time. I've little enough of it left to me. If someone calls from a strange number and doesn't leave a message.... blocked.

There's many weeks, and sometimes single days, where I use up every bit of my social patience in school, and there's nothing left at all. Then the weekend becomes ever more precious as alone and recovery time.

Different people have different ways. These are some of mine.